NAVEENA PATTHU PORUTHANGAL
Marriage is an important Turning point not only for the Bride and Groom but also for their Families as well. A right decision will lead to Success and Happiness & wrong one will lead to Failure and Miseries.
If we take a Logical Decision, applying our common sense, I am sure the Marriages are bound to succeed. Here are Ten Naveena patthu Poruthangal based on my ExperienceS and interactions in the line for over 2 Decades, which I am sure will be useful to you! I welcome your Feedback!
1. Personality:
This includes Height, Weight, Complexion and Features. Photos plays a vital role in giving First Impression. Personality and Complexion are no doubt essential but we need not give over importance. More than External Personality, Internal Personality consisting of Character, Qualities, Talents etc are very important. Slim or Fat person must be Healthy. A person with Bald head can be accepted very well based on his other plus points. Whether Bald or not one must be Bold!
2.Likes:
Everyone has a set of Likes such as Music, Travelling, Gardening, Reading, Yoga, Bajans etc. Better if the other person also has similar likes. For e.g., a person deeply interested or talented in Carnatic Music will go well with a person of similar taste.
3. Dislikes:
We also develop Dislikes such as pets, Smoking, Non Vegetarian Food etc. It is essential that the other person is devoid of such factors. Recently an alliance got cancelled after Nichayadartham because of ‘Petty’ Matter! The Boy was very fond of Dogs while the Girl was allergic and they could not compromise!
4. Culture:
Culture plays a major role. People may be Highly Modern, Orthodox or fall in between the Two. Person with “ Modern Culture “ (Drinking etc,) can better choose a partner with similar Taste. Mediocre culture is preferable! Orthodox culture is very rare and Brides are generally hesitant to accept!
5. Belief:
We do develop various Beliefs. A Sai Devotee or Krishna Devotee can feel happier if the partner is also of such a Type.
6. Goals:
Marriage is not just for getting children alone. The Bride and Groom may have other Dreams also. A career oriented Bride can better prefer a person who will allow her to go for job. A Girl willing to do MS in USA must prefer such an alliance in USA. A Boy needing financial help for buying a Flat or doing Business must go for a Bride who earns well or well-to-do.
7. Language:
It is better that both are familiar in similar languages. A person of Northern origin for instance can prefer a partner of similar brought up or atleast ensure that the other is also familiar in Hindi, Marathi etc, as the case may be.
8. Status:
Status is also equally important. This Consists of Three factors. Worth (Assets), Income flow and social status. All the Three are equally important. But a person of high status need not Insist upon the same level! Social Status includes Reputation, Credibility, Occupation, Family Heritage etc.
9. Qualification:
It is preferable that Boy’s Qualification must be higher than that of the Bride but not necessarily always. Just because the Bride is a Gold Medalist, she need not insist that Groom must also be a Gold Medalist. Qualification like BE etc is not everything in life. A boy with a Graduation if blessed with other plus points can very well be accepted and may prove to be a right choice based on their other strengths!
10. Moods:
Moods or State of Mind falls under Three categories. Parental (Dominating) Adult (Analytical & Logical) and Child (Fun loving and submissive) For a highly dominating Bride, it is better to see a Flexible and Accommodative Boy and vice versa. A Fun loving person can better choose a similar one.
General:
Marriage is a question of compromise and no alliance can fulfill all our Expectations. If we are very choosy and not flexible we may lose good alliances and start regretting later. Better to be clear on factors on which we can compromise and not compromise and proceed in practical way. The Marital Life is after all a Partnership! It is better that the other partner is able to complement or compensate on factors which are found lacking in the other. For eg. If the Girl is not good in cooking it is better if the Boy can cook well & so on! The ultimate Goal is to ensure Timely Marriage and Happy Wedded Life.
With Best Wishes & Kind Regards
N. PANCHAPAKESAN, Founder, Chennai Sai Sankara Matrimonials
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