FOUNDER’S WEBSITE MESSAGE NO.70 DATED 22-07-2019

Inter-Caste / Inter-Religion Marriages

Dear Clients

Pranams & Greetings to you!

The News

  • The recent News regarding the Marriage of Dr. Sudha Raghunathan’s Daughter Ms. Maalavika with Mr. Michael came as a big surprise & even as a shock to many of us.
  • Though by & large we are glad that majority of our Brahmin boys/girls still prefer “Arranged Marriages” within our community only. It is unfortunate that Inter-Caste Marriages are also on the increase now a days mainly due to fast changing cultural scenario.
  • I have already conveyed my views in detail in this regard vide my earlier Web-Message No.59 dt. 05/10/2018 which was widely applauded by one and all.

The Impact

  • Marriage is no doubt purely a domestic affair and it does not warrant any Interference from others. However, we are only concerned about the possible impact it may cause in our society especially since we carry high esteem for Dr.Sudha Raghunathan and her mastery over Carnatic Music.
  • For persons in a dilemma over such Inter-caste Marriages, this may come as a handy reference to justify their stand by quoting this as a strong precedence.

Brahminism

  • We don’t have any control over our Birth. Pirappai Thernthedukkum Urimai NammidathilIllai! Human Birth itself is a rarity! It is still more a rarity & fortune to be born as a Brahmin. Once we are born, it becomes our responsibility to lead our Life also as a “True Brahmin” by following our various Samskaras & Rituals which of course is not so easy!
  • Let us be clear that no caste is superior or inferior! But preserving & cherishing our own separate identity is not only our duty but also our pride & right as well!

Unity in Diversity

  • It may be noted that such differences are prevalent in various creations. For example we have various varieties in mangoes, dogs etc.,though ultimately everything comes under one banner. Similarly there are differences in Tastes, colours etc. Infact every Human being is unique. Whether caste, religion, language or state, Unity in Diversity is always our country’s great uniqueness & greatness!

Swadharma

  • The concept & importance of “Swadharma” is well emphasized in the Bhagawat Geetha itself. The consequences of non-adherence is also narrated in Chapter 1, Slokas 40-45. You are most welcome to go through the same & be guided accordingly.

Demerits of Intercaste

  • Apart from this, from practical angle also, I find many of the Inter-caste marriages run into difficulties in the long run due to lack of compatibility & differences in values including Eating Habits.
  • Let us remember that marriage is not uniting just two individuals alone but also two families & Parampariyams as well!
  • We owe our Birth & Existence to our genetical forefathers & Maharishis. This being so will it be fair & proper to do anything which may hurt their souls? Let us ponder over!
  • The real pinch of inter-caste marriages is often felt only in the later part of life when they start searching for alliances for their son/daughter which becomes pathetic! No point in regretting at that time!

Acharyal

  • During my recent visit, our Kanchi Acharyal also expressed his deep concern in this matter. It is high time for all of us to take remedial action to ensure against such inter-caste marriages!

      • Preventive Steps

      • Right from childhood, we must strongly inculcate our Brahminical Values in the minds of our children, so that they never get tempted for such Inter-caste marriages. They must be empowered to put the “Lakshman Rekha” for them by themselves instead of by others.
      • Likewise, we Brahmins must resolve to adhere to vegetarianism and strictly avoid taking Non-veg food under any circumstances, falling in line with Mahatma Gandhiji.
      • We must also ensure timely marriages by avoiding unwarranted delays due to too much of filtrations and false belief on Star & Horoscope matchings which is the foremost villain in polluting our minds.
      • It is also essential that elders must first set an example for others in cherishing our culture by following the various rituals including Sandhyavandanam, Poojas etc.
      • Reading of Maha Periyava’s “DeivathinKural”, with devotion may go a long way in strengthening our belief & faith in this regard.

      Appeal

      • Finally inspite of all our efforts, if such marriages become inevitable, parents can atleast avoid invoking the Blessings of Acharyas & also avoid performing our sacred vedic rituals, so that they don’t become a mockery!
      • The same thing applies for Remarriages also!
      • When there is a will, there is always a way! Let us resolve to do what all we can!

      Please acknowledge

      With kind regards & Best Wishes

      Dr.N.PANCHAPAKESAN
      Founder
      98403 30531

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